SO…yesterday, I showed up for work at Gina’s… but instead of working, I crumpled into a tiny ball on her couch and burst into tears. I was feeling completely overwhelmed with the growing mountain of things left to do in the month before my wedding. Today, is exactly 30 days before I get married to the man I love the most, and I feel like NOTHING is done.
My feelings are, of course, exaggerated (per usual), but the truth remains that I am behind schedule. I’m pretty sure every bride within weeks of her big day can relate to me in this moment. I mean, seeeriously, how do weddings HAPPEN? How do women plan a beautiful, magical dinner party, with the best food and the best music, for hundreds of guests? How do women show up at their weddings looking perfect and beautiful and well rested after weeks of running around like a crazy chicken? How do women juggle the intricacies of daily life with the mammoth task of planning the biggest event of their lives?!
Well the truth is, they don’t. At least not by themselves. This was a fact that I had to be reminded of in my quivering, tearful state. Ladies, DELEGATE! People want to help – it makes them feel included – and contrary to popular belief, they are in fact able to complete tasks without your constant supervision. The great thing about weddings is that there is a crowd of people who care, and are super excited and willing to buckle down and make your dreams come true. You’re not alone!
This was revelation to me, quietly whispered by the ever gracious and wise Gina, and later yelled to me down the phone by my lovely mother, and once again repeated by my sexy fiance. Once this truth was sledgehammered into my head, Gina guided me through the process of making a master list (list making = NOT my strong point), which I then color coded according to who was responsible for what task. Pink was for me, blue was for my man, green was mummy etc. There were some things (i.e. centerpieces) that I decided to set free into the arms and minds of someone else. Initially, it was a shock to the system, to relinquish control of so many details. But once I took the plunge, it was really quite nice. I can now focus on the essentials, the parts that only I can do, and allow people who love and care about me to take care of the peripherals.
One last vital thing that I should have tattooed to my forehead lest i forget is that I will be MARRIED, to the love of my life, by 3:30 pm on Decemeber 4th, 2010! Now that is one thing that only I can do.
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